I’ve gotten frustrated with this whole ‘listen to your body’ thing when I can’t tell what the tension, discomfort, and constriction in my body is all about. It doesn’t feel good, I can’t tell if it’s my nerves or my intuition, and I don’t know how to make it go away. All I want to … Continue reading How do I know my No?
This part can be tricky. My 'No' is usually highly activated, full of anger, disappointment, hurt, and fear. It's hard to stay connected to my center and my power when I want to express No: mostly because I'm afraid of rejection.... will my No be accepted? And also the fear of the other person's reaction... … Continue reading Embodying your No… First steps out of fear and into Love
“Why don't you move to London?”, said the guy I had been with twice. “What are you afraid of?”, he asked, noticing my hesitation to kiss him as we waited for the night bus. “Do you want to teach Embody?”, when I had never been to a class, didn’t teach movement, and “wasn’t a dancer”. … Continue reading Sometimes your Yes doesn’t make sense
I've spent a lot of time in my life doing what I thought would make other people happy, whether it was my parents or friends or teachers or church leaders or bosses. At the time it didn't necessarily feel good for me, but I also didn't have another way to express, "No, I don't want … Continue reading Embodying your Yes… A simple practice to make room for what feels good
A bomb went off in my life recently; all because of one word: No. I’ve avoided saying No for most of my life. I was afraid that it would create conflict, make me look selfish, and I thought the right thing to do was to go along with what the other party wanted. Obedience was … Continue reading Sometimes ‘No’ Feels like Sh*t
A fresh way at understanding why you might be burning yourself out, plus 10 ways you can cultivate safety and trust with do-it-yourself embodiment practices.
If we've ever had a conversation about the EMBODY dance class I teach, you may have heard me say something like this... "EMBODY is so awesome because in class you feel what it's like to be (confident, playful, in your power, feminine, sexy, your authentic self, etc) in your body, which means when you leave … Continue reading How your body is the best healing tool you have
“Have more fun.” That’s what came to me as I asked myself what I wanted for 2019. Fun, I can dig that. So as December drew to an end, scouring the internet for fun ways to kick off 2019, a New Year's Day 5K Fun Run showed up in search results. I considered joining in, … Continue reading How my new year’s day run was a revolutionary act of Fun
LISTEN TO THE AUDIO VERSION AND JOIN IN THE DANCE ON YOUTUBE When I was 5 years old, I would spend my late afternoons, that witching and waiting hour while mom was cooking dinner and dad was on his way home, dancing around my living room. I wasn’t dancing to cheesy 80's hits, or more … Continue reading A dedication to your 5 year-old Self
I’ve been feeling a lot lately. Between the unexpected passing of my father-in-law, other losses that friends are going through, the Kavanaugh - Ford hearing, the results, Trump’s response, the reactions from my social media family, the stories of women in my life who are speaking out about the abuse they have experienced, the stories … Continue reading Bumping up against pain and shame